Conversation Starters: Asking for Cunnilingus in the Moment

Speaking up and asking for cunnilingus, which is oral sex on a vulva ({}) can sometimes make folks feel vulnerable and uncomfortable. This may be one of the reasons for the Oral Sex Gap between people with vulvas and those with penises.

Practice these scripts aloud to yourself until you find one that sounds good and makes you feel confident. Of course tweak them as you see fit, or add some of your own ideas.

For real world application, these work best when in a sexual moment, where kissing or other sex acts have begun:

I’d like some oral please.

My turn?

Will you go down on me?

Time for licks?

Wanna eat this pussy?

I’ll do you if you do me. How does that sound?

I need a kiss right here. (pointing)

Can I sit on your face?

I love it when you go down on me. Do you want to?

I could go for oral sex right now.

[Last sexual activity] was amazing, let’s keep going with your mouth on my clit.

If you ate me out right now  I would totally cum.

Dear Sir or Madam, I respectfully request cunnilingus at this juncture.

[After mentioning in a non-sexual setting that you want more oral sex] Do you remember what we talked about earlier? Do you feel like it now?

My clit needs a sucking.

Can we try a new position for oral sex on me?

Add your own ideas in the comments: