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Don't search for your "other half"...

6/13/2018

 
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Because you are not a half.

Whole person + whole person = relationship. ❤️❤️

Despite expressions that refer to one's "better half" and song lyrics and famous movie quotes that romanticize "you complete me" please be advised that you are already complete.

You are already whole.

You are already enough.

You are not peanut butter waiting for jelly to come along and give you meaning. You are already the entire sandwich- on gourmet bread! If you find another sandwich- awesome, now you can both share both, but if not, you're still not missing lunch. Got it? 🍞 #youareasandwich #healthyrelationships

CUNT: the most offensive word in English?

6/5/2018

 
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Cunt is considered the most OFFENSIVE word in the English language, a vulgar, abusive word, "a nasty name for a nasty thing."

For me it's a linguistic illustration of how much we culturally despise vaginas, vulvas, and the people attached to them.

If the WORST insult someone can give to the object they regard with hatred and disgust is that they are vulva-like, what does that say about the way we view vulvas?

Cunts are majestic, life-giving, pleasure-producing, works of fucking art. Don't waste this high compliment on low people.

Sex Work is Real Work

6/3/2018

 
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Image via Exotic Cancer
In honor of International Whore's Day.

I saw a meme that said "there is nothing scarier in a capitalist patriarchy than large amounts of money moving from the pocketbooks of rich men to poor women."

Add to this a sex-negative, sex-phobic cultural worldview, and this leaves a highly stigmatized, marginalized, criminalized group of folks just trying to live their damn lives. Not OK.

Sex work is work.

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