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British Tourist: What are you doing?
Me: Taking pictures.
BT: With those things?!
BT: What are they?
Me: You don’t take pictures of your vibrators at the beach?
HA! She won't soon forget her vacation to San Diego!
Anyway, I took this photo to showcase the Cal Exotics California Dreaming vibes:
💛 Venice, which ENCAPSULATES your clit.
💗Malibu (not pictured), which SUCKS on your clit.
💙 Santa Monica, which THUMPS on your g-spot.
❤️ San Francisco, which COME HITHERS on your g-spot
🧡And OC, new to my website, which THRUSTS inside your whole vagina.
Check em out!
I usually have this well managed with meds but for the last few days I've been experiencing the hell of PMDD, which is PMS' evil stepsister.
5 facts about Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder:
😡 It is a severe and debilitating disorder that, like PMS, has mood related symptoms that recur monthly during the luteal phase of the menstrual cycle then cease when the period begins.
😡 It affects 2–5% of menstruating people.
😡 Symptoms can include severe irritability and overreactions (more than once I've had to buy a new phone while suffering from a PMDD mood swing because an app froze or some other mild inconvenience and I threw the phone on the ground in frustration), depression, feelings of hopelessness, conflict with other people (99% of the arguments I've had with Ryan have happened with PMDD), and intense white-hot uncontrollable rage.
😡 It was added to the DSM 5 and classified as a "depressive disorder not otherwise specified". Some were concerned that diagnostic inclusion would give ammunition to stereotypes that "women go crazy in their periods" or would pathologize the normal happenings of the menstrual cycle. Others note that PMDD is disordered PMS, and not normal.
😡 Taking birth control pills and skipping the placebo week can be a helpful treatment (because no period = no period disorders). But even though there is no medical benefit for anyone to take the placebo pills, and even if a doctor prescribes skipping the placebo pills in treatment of this disorder, many insurance companies still won't cover the extra week of active pills needed to round out the month because, as we learned in a bombshell news story that came out last week, 60 years ago the creators of the birth control pill hoped their new controversial contraceptive would be more palatable to the pope if women still bled every month.
Spoiler alert: the Catholic Church is still opposed to birth control and PMDD sufferers and others with cycle related medical issues treated with uninterrupted birth control have been needlessly in agony for the last 6 decades. Talk about white-hot rage.
Not an ad for any of the brands in the photo, just showing you how I'm getting by.
This is the part that hurts the most. All the evidence, all of the corroboration, all the expert testimony, all the likeable snow white victims in the world won’t make them do the right thing.
There could be video of the whole assault. Hell, he could confess! And it still wouldn’t be enough. Because it’s never been about whether they #believesurvivors or not. THEY JUST DON’T GIVE A FUCK ABOUT SURVIVORS’ PAIN.
⚫ Because they are selfish and sexual assault survivors are inconvenient to their goals and their worldview.
⚫ Because they don’t value women enough to do the work of extending human compassion.
This is the sad reality that took me years as a young, optimistic sexologist to realize. Years and years of
⚫ "maybe they don’t understand"
⚫ “maybe they just need it explained this way”
⚫ "maybe they don’t know how common it is or how painful it is, so if we tell our stories and humanize it for them they will get it…“
…before finally it occurred to me that they understand perfectly fucking well. And they don’t care.
Btw: This "they” I reference isn’t just the Senate today. It’s the police. It’s college administrations. It’s the NFL. It’s the Catholic Church. It’s the news media. It’s every “nice guy” who seems like a perfectly normal rational functioning adult but is on Facebook saying “well I don’t know… she didn’t report it at the time…”
Because pretending be ignorant or judicious or “see both sides” makes you sound like less of a sociopath than that you’re simply cruel.
This is why I do the work that I do.
This is why WE NEED COMPASSION BASED SEXUALITY EDUCATION NOW.
Last week I decided to take a 7 day Self-Care Staycation and was away from work, email, and social media. Friends, you NEED to do this, even if it's only for one day.
This week I READ- for pleasure! 📖🏖️ I took a sexy bath with Ryan and tried my first EVER bath bomb and face mask. 🛀🏼 I went kayaking in some sea caves. 🛶🌊 I worked on a craft project I've wanted to do but have been putting off for literally two years. 🎨
I also did some unsexy self-care like making a long overdue eye doctor appointment and got new glasses and sunglasses and now I can SEE! 😎🙌🏼 I replaced my 5 1/2 year old laptop 💻 and bought new clothes. 👗 I deep cleaned my house and got some new home decor items to bring more color into my home. 🌈🌼 I'm currently in love with my kitchen and bedroom. Self-Care Staycation is EVERYTHING and will absolutely be an annual event. I can't recommend it enough.
Coincidentally, my 10 Day Sexual Self-Care Challenge started today. If you missed the course this time around, grab your spot now for the next one. Nurturing yourself, especially your sexuality, which is the first thing to get chopped when we feel we have a scarcity of time, energy, or compassion, is SO IMPORTANT!
The first hurdle is managing that voice that says "this is so indulgent and I don't deserve this." You DO deserve this nurturing, and that voice is something we address repeatedly in the online challenge. Reserve your seat here because it's limited to 20 people.
Romance is the language of love- it's how you express connection, caring, admiration, attraction, and lust to your partner. There are endless ways to be romantic, but some of the more popular gestures include:
💕 Holding hands
💕 Greeting them with a hug and a cheerful "I'm glad you're home!'
💕 Cooking them dinner
💕 Leaving them a short and sweet love note
💕 Paying them a random compliment
💕 Asking them to go for a leisurely walk together
💕 Giving them a playful squeeze on the butt
💕 Fixing them an ice cream sundae or other treat
💕 Surprising them with a small gift, like a flower weed you picked, a candle, bottle of wine, or piece of chocolate
💕 Drawing them a warm bath
💕 Seizing the opportunity for an impromptu makeout sesh, like I did with my husband Ryan earlier this Romance Month on the beach. The pic turn out pretty sex, eh? ;)
Make this last day of August count!
I've teamed up with CalExotics, my favorite sex toy manufacturer to present you with a new sexual education series called #Sexin60Seconds in which I explain all about a topic, talking ssssssuper fast 💨 to give you as much info as possible in just ONE MINUTE! ⏳⏳
My first topic: How to make sure you're squeezing the correct muscle during your kegel/pelvic floor exercises. Check it out!
It's #WorldEmojiDay! 🎉‼️👍 Emojis are the latest mechanism of human communication to be driven by, or adopted early by, sexual communication. 👅🍆👉👌🍾
From Paleolithic cave art 🎨 to clay tablet writings 📜 from the printing press 📚 to the telephone ☎️ photography 📷 moving pictures 📽️ and the Internet 🌐 sexual communication and expression have ALWAYS been one of the first uses for a new technology.
So embrace the eggplant penis and taco vulva. Using symbols to talk about boning is part of what makes us human! 🍆🍆🍆🌮🌮🌮
Because you are not a half.
Whole person + whole person = relationship. ❤️❤️
Despite expressions that refer to one's "better half" and song lyrics and famous movie quotes that romanticize "you complete me" please be advised that you are already complete.
You are already whole.
You are already enough.
You are not peanut butter waiting for jelly to come along and give you meaning. You are already the entire sandwich- on gourmet bread! If you find another sandwich- awesome, now you can both share both, but if not, you're still not missing lunch. Got it? 🍞 #youareasandwich #healthyrelationships